Comments on: Stepkids are mean… wouldn’t you be too? http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/03/stepkids-are-mean-wouldnt-you-be-too/ Susan Wisdom writes about the challenges and joys of Step Parenting. Tue, 08 Nov 2011 22:04:14 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Heather Hetchler http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/03/stepkids-are-mean-wouldnt-you-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-418 Heather Hetchler Mon, 05 Apr 2010 02:37:37 +0000 http://www.stepcoupling.com/?p=504#comment-418 Susan, Love this reminder. I often have to stop and remind myself to look at our family life through the kid's eyes. Just because I love all of my kids (bio and step) doesn't mean that they all love the family situation they are in. Often times, when thekids are the most stubborn or hurtful to me is when they are hurting the most themselves. I have shared parenting w/ my ex-husband but am a custodial stepmom. Many times when my kids are with their dad, I find something to do on my own so my stepdaughters can have their dad to themselves. I think it helps that I offer that to them. Then when the girls go to bed, I have my husband all to myself and we can connect and spend time just focusing on each other. Thanks again for the great reminder to talk to and listen to both our stepkids and our biological kids in our stepfamily! Heather:) Susan,

Love this reminder. I often have to stop and remind myself to look at our family life through the kid’s eyes. Just because I love all of my kids (bio and step) doesn’t mean that they all love the family situation they are in. Often times, when thekids are the most stubborn or hurtful to me is when they are hurting the most themselves. I have shared parenting w/ my ex-husband but am a custodial stepmom. Many times when my kids are with their dad, I find something to do on my own so my stepdaughters can have their dad to themselves. I think it helps that I offer that to them. Then when the girls go to bed, I have my husband all to myself and we can connect and spend time just focusing on each other. Thanks again for the great reminder to talk to and listen to both our stepkids and our biological kids in our stepfamily!
Heather:)

]]> By: Susan Wisdom http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/03/stepkids-are-mean-wouldnt-you-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-398 Susan Wisdom Sat, 20 Mar 2010 18:56:24 +0000 http://www.stepcoupling.com/?p=504#comment-398 By the way, the pain and loss that bio kids feel when their mom remarries is equally strong. They complain that their stepdad stole mom away from them. They complain that they have to share mom with him...and his kids. They too miss "they way it used to be" when it was just mom and her kids hanging out. Susan By the way, the pain and loss that bio kids feel when their mom remarries is equally strong. They complain that their stepdad stole mom away from them. They complain that they have to share mom with him…and his kids. They too miss “they way it used to be” when it was just mom and her kids hanging out.
Susan

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