Are you facing stepcouple and stepfamily challenges you never imagined would happen to you? Is love not enough to ease the tension between you and your partner? Do you feel isolated and lonely because your family and friends don’t understand what you’re going through?
You’re NOT alone. Within five years of divorcing, 89 percent of men and 79 percent of women walk down the aisle again, often with children in tow. Combining existing families presents incredible challenges that confuse and frustrate. People need help to sort it out.
There is help for you!
5 WAYS TO GET HELP
1. START WITH MY BOOK, STEPCOUPLING
Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family, Three Rivers Press, New York, a division of Random House, is the first book for stepcouples that focuses on the couple’s relationship as the focal point for stability, change and growth.
In this book, readers will learn how to:
- Keep the marriage strong, safe, and growing in the first five critical years
- Cope with negative feelings toward or from stepchildren
- Deal with angry, jealous ex-spouses and biological parents
- Recognize and accommodate different parenting styles and values
- Renew their bond as a couple
- Recognize and deal with individual issues that block healthy stepcoupling
If you want more personalized help…
2. THE STEPCOUPLING BLOG
I host a blog on this website which enables people to communicate with other stepcouples in similar situations. People can share stories and feel understood and supported. I post blogs drawn from my own clinical and personal experience. Remember, my husband and I have raised five children in our own stepfamily, and now we are happily enjoying the fruits of our labor in our retirement. This is possible because we followed the principals taught in this book.
3. CONSIDER CONSULTATIONS WITH A QUALIFIED INDIVIDUAL WHO UNDERSTANDS THE UNIQUE DYNAMICS OF A STEPCOUPLE AND STEPFAMILY
There are many qualified therapists throughout the Nation, but not all are qualified to counsel on the unique aspects of stepcouple parenting. I encourage you to do your homework while selecting a qualified professional for your family. This link can be helpful.
To begin your search for a therapist, consider these sites:
Also consider searching your individual health insurance’s directory.
4. READ STEPFAMILY BLOGS
There are numerous blogs and resources online. See our Resources page for some. Use Google to find many more!
5. SUBSCRIBE TO STEPMOM MAGAZINE AND READ IT EVERY MONTH
Stepmom Magazine is packed with helpful articles and information for your stepfamily. Read them and you will learn and grow!