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	<title>Stepcoupling &#187; Susan Wisdom</title>
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		<title>Help! Holidays Are Coming Fast!</title>
		<link>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/12/help-holidays-coming-fast/</link>
		<comments>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/12/help-holidays-coming-fast/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Dec 2010 05:23:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Susan Wisdom</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Stepcouple Challenges]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Taking Care of Yourself]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[The holidays are coming fast.  I’m afraid I can’t possibly make everyone happy.  I can’t do everything I want to do.  There’s not enough time.   Not enough money.  I can’t find the gift I want… because they probably don’t make it anymore! Stuff happens when you least expect it. I have to STOP MYSELF.  I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Is Your Stepcouple Cratering?</title>
		<link>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/11/is-your-stepcouple-cratering/</link>
		<comments>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/11/is-your-stepcouple-cratering/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Nov 2010 01:34:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Susan Wisdom</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Enhancing Your Stepcouple Relationship]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Stepcouple Challenges]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Competition with kids and stepkids. Stepparenting]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Developing stepcouple trust]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Finding your way in stepcoupling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[From romantic twosome to stepcouple]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Making collaborative decisions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Solving stepcouple conflicts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Stepcouple honesty and communication]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.stepcoupling.com/?p=645</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Some days it seems to take everything out of you to just stay together.  It’s hard and painful. The romance has faded.  What’s left?  You wonder why did you do it.  What were you thinking? Most stepcouples have these moments&#8230; hours, days, even weeks… or longer.  You miss the fairy tale romance… the hopes and [...]]]></description>
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		<title>It&#8217;s Not the Kids or the Exes&#8230; It&#8217;s You!</title>
		<link>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/10/its-not-the-kids-or-the-exes-its-you/</link>
		<comments>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/10/its-not-the-kids-or-the-exes-its-you/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 27 Oct 2010 23:14:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Susan Wisdom</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Dealing with the Other Parent]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Deciding to Remarry]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Enhancing Your Stepcouple Relationship]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Stepcouple Challenges]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Taking Care of Yourself]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[advise for stepcouples]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[boundaries in stepfamilies]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[communication and commitment in stepcouples]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kids need stability in stepfamilies]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[partnership is key]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[stepcouple endurance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[stepcouple stability]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Stepcouple team]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.stepcoupling.com/?p=642</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[It’s you who makes or breaks a stepcouple. All married couples, partnerships, and families have problems.  Granted, stepcouples may have more problems and certainly different problems than traditional families.  But that’s not the issue. A stable adult stepcouple relationship with a strong emotional commitment will endure no matter what.  No person and no force can [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Unbreakable Bonds: How To Help The Kids</title>
		<link>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/07/unbreakable-bonds-how-to-help-the-kids/</link>
		<comments>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/07/unbreakable-bonds-how-to-help-the-kids/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Jul 2010 00:33:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Susan Wisdom</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Building Relationships with Kids and Stepkids]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Dealing with the Other Parent]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Developing and Growing your Blended Family]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Stepcouple Challenges]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[biological parent/child bonds]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[helpful questions for stepparents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kids' natural loyalties]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[preserving first and second family bonds]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[remarried families]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Too often, as a struggling stepparent, it’s easy to lose yourself in self-pity, resentment and jealousy—and, amid it all, forget what the kids are enduring. Grappling with the separation of their biological parents—not to mention also adjusting to the idea that one or both parents now have new partners—is a devastating process for the children. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Don’t Be Fooled: There’s No Such Thing as a Perfect Family</title>
		<link>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/07/no-such-thing-as-a-perfect-family/</link>
		<comments>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/07/no-such-thing-as-a-perfect-family/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Jul 2010 23:48:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Susan Wisdom</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Deciding to Remarry]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Developing and Growing your Blended Family]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Stepcouple Challenges]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA["normal" families vs. stepfamilies]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[rewards of stepcoupling]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[stepcouple journey]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.stepcoupling.com/?p=574</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[As stepcouples, does it sometimes feel as though other so-called “normal” families are better off? Do you sometimes observe them and feel jealous of the way they appear to interact—to talk and play and laugh—so naturally and comfortably? And, as a result, does this comparison make you feel as though your stepfamily were somehow worse? [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Playing the &#8220;If Only&#8221; Game &#8211; Doesn&#8217;t Work in Stepcoupling</title>
		<link>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/06/playing-the-if-only-game-doesnt-work-in-stepcoupling/</link>
		<comments>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/06/playing-the-if-only-game-doesnt-work-in-stepcoupling/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Jun 2010 04:40:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Susan Wisdom</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Building Relationships with Kids and Stepkids]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Dealing with the Other Parent]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Enhancing Your Stepcouple Relationship]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Stepcouple Challenges]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[acceptance of situation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[accepting reality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[avoiding divorce]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[boundary conflicts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[conflicts that lead to divorce]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[exspouses]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[If Only]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[important questions to ask]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[intimacy in stepcoupling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[maturity and patience]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[resilience]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.stepcoupling.com/?p=565</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[In stepcoupling, it starts with falling in love…of course!  We’re convinced that we’ve found the right mate in spite of some concerns … like kids, exspouses, child support payments, parenting responsibilities, etc. No worries though. It’ll work out over time.  And for many, it does For others – not so well.  Many people in stepcouples [...]]]></description>
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		<title>What Really Happens… After “I Do”?</title>
		<link>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/05/what-really-happens-after-i-do/</link>
		<comments>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/05/what-really-happens-after-i-do/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 25 May 2010 19:00:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Susan Wisdom</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Deciding to Remarry]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Enhancing Your Stepcouple Relationship]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Stepcouple Challenges]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[authority as stepmother]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[avoiding stepcouple divorce]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[building strong relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[communication and respect]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[developmental journey as stepcouple]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[marriage failure]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[patience/understanding as stepcouple]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.stepcoupling.com/?p=557</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[We hadn’t been married long when we were invited to a party given by my husband’s old friends.  Almost immediately this woman made a fast beeline for me! In a loud voice she asked, “Susan, how’s it going with your new family?”  “OK,” I said.  She probed deeper&#8230; definitely fishing for gossip.  She asked me [...]]]></description>
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		<title>What Memories are You Creating for Your Children?</title>
		<link>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/05/what-memories-are-you-creating/</link>
		<comments>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/05/what-memories-are-you-creating/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 10 May 2010 19:53:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Susan Wisdom</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Building Relationships with Kids and Stepkids]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Developing and Growing your Blended Family]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[class reunion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[different culture today]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[families then and now]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[friendship]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[growing up in Berkeley]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[high school memories]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[making memories]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[significance of memories]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[stepcoupling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[stepmoms raising children]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.stepcoupling.com/?p=545</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I spent four days in the Bay Area at my high school reunion. What a trip!! My school was a small girls school with 45 graduating in our class. Six have passed away. Twenty-two of us showed up. There was one formal event but many opportunities to be with our close friends over [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Your Baggage Will Meet You At Your Next Destination</title>
		<link>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/04/your-baggage-will-meet-you/</link>
		<comments>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/04/your-baggage-will-meet-you/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Apr 2010 03:18:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Susan Wisdom</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Deciding to Remarry]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Enhancing Your Stepcouple Relationship]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.stepcoupling.com/?p=527</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Yesterday was my husband’s birthday. As always we had the kids and grandchildren over for dinner. This birthday party was particularly nice. Beautiful day. Potluck so everyone brought goodies. It was peaceful and fun &#8211; no fights or hurt feelings. (This may be a first!) Grandkids played with their cousins. The ADULTS…where did the time [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Shopping for a Partner?  Control Your Impulses.</title>
		<link>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/04/shopping-for-a-partner-control-your-impulses/</link>
		<comments>http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/04/shopping-for-a-partner-control-your-impulses/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 20 Apr 2010 03:32:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Susan Wisdom</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.stepcoupling.com/?p=514</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever been in a store and seen an outfit that you just have to have. It’s sexy, gorgeous, your favorite color&#8230; and perfect for the party this weekend. You want to be a knockout! You try it on. It’s not a perfect fit and it’s really not your style. You buy it anyway [...]]]></description>
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