The Four C’s
Being in a stepcouple relationship is unique and challenging, rewarding and exhausting all at
the same time. There is no other relationship on the planet like it. Stepcouples face unique
challenges for sure! So HOW do we attend to our children, stepchildren, exes, etc. and keep our
stepcouple relationship alive and well? It takes just four C’s.
CONNECTION, COMMUNICATION, CO-PARENTING AND CLARIFICATION
When conflicts come up over and over, STOP arguing in the same old way, and LISTEN to these timeless tips.
Meet Ali Wilks, new owner of Stepcoupling
Dedicated to creating and sustaining strong adult relationships in today’s stepfamily
When I was supporting over 400 women in an on- line stepmom support group I was heartbroken to hear how many of them were succumbing to the stresses, demands and dynamics of stepfamily life. From that moment on I’ve been inspired to help other couples in stepfamilies feel better, do better and be better. Not long after I read the book Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family (Crown Publishing Group, New York, 2002). The book was written as a remarriage manual for adults with children.
Before I was part of the group, I too felt the pain and felt the fear of marital breakdown, There were days when I didn’t think we’d make it. I remember one particularly difficult stretch. We were both really scared. But, with the support of the online group, our hard work, determination, tears and hugs, and reassurance we are closer than we were before.
After that, while our conflicts got to us from time to time, we always knew that we would stay together. We loved each other, we needed each other, and the children deserved stable, committed parents to raise them. They’re grown and married now, with families of their own.
This experience was the beginning of my understanding that the stepcouple relationship is pivotal to the strength and longevity of a stepfamily. Since then, I’ve seen this proved over and over in my coaching practice.
JOIN THE SUCCESSFUL STEPCOUPLE RETREAT
CANMORE OCT 18 - OCT 20/19
Falcon Crest Lodge
Do you want to build a healthy, long lasting stepcouple relationship that defies the statistics of 70% divorce rate for couples in stepfamilies?
Stepcouples need extra support and resources in order to succeed. The statistics prove that intentional efforts are necessary. The intense and complicated dynamics of blending lives and former lives that include children and exes are not experienced by first time families.
So you may be wondering how the stepcouple retreat is going to benefit your marriage. You will walk away feeling validated in your roles, inspired in your relationship, and empowered to make the changes you need for your stepcouple success. Topics covered have been inspired but the book “stepcoupling: These are the important elements we will focus on:
-Understanding boundaries, roles and expectations- what’s realistic regarding exes and stepkids
-Improving Communication- what your needs are and how to have them met
-Simple and effective ways to reconnect and stay connected
-Self care and couple care and how this is necessary for sustaining your relationship
This is time away for the two of you to focus just on the two of you. And your man will appreciate the opportunity to talk to other men who “get” the guys perspective on life in the blender. This retreat turns the tables on the belief that “Only other stepmoms get what it’s like to be a stepmom” .
The theme for The Successful Stepcouple Retreat is Growing Together as a Couple. The entire weekend will be dedicated to renewing and recharging your intimate relationship. Come join me for a weekend of fun, relaxation,reflection and re-connection. Limited numbers. Get your spot by contacting me for a deposit today!
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Your turn to make a move
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